Mindfulness and meditation on Harley street interview with Cornelius

An Interview with Cornelius

Cornelius is the Co-founder of Bodhimaya and one of the World's leading Mind, Meditation and Eastern Philosophy Experts. Cornelius has studied Eastern approaches to the mind for over 20 years and has a rarely seen grasp of the some of the more complex and misunderstood aspects of Eastern philosophy and meditation.

Cornelius is known for his ability to therapeutically apply Eastern philosophy and teach its wisdom in a simple, grounded and approachable way.

 

Why did you create Bodhimaya?

I had been on dozens of wellness holidays and retreats and felt that they lacked the ability to deliver a truly transformative and authentic retreat experience. The spa and wellness world is full of great locations, but in terms of substance and expertise they are often lacking. To deliver a truly life-changing retreat experience you need to have a beautiful location and a team of skilled experts delivering a highly personalised and tailored experience.

We created Bodhimaya to offer a retreat that was focused the delivering the best possible retreat experience.

 

What does 'Bodhimaya' mean?

Bodhimaya comes from two sanskrit words. 'Bodhi' which means awakening and 'Maya' which means illusion. The aim of the Bodhimaya experience is to awaken people to a better way of living and being, to educate them and support them on a journey towards optimal health and happiness.

 

What makes Bodhimaya different?

Firstly, Bodhimaya offers the highest level of expertise. There a lot of experts out there, but finding authentic and effective nutrition, yoga and meditation is difficult. Bodhimaya offers people leading experts, who deliver the most up-to-date nutritional science and the most authentic yoga and meditation available.

Secondly, we genuinely care about the people who come to us for help. Knowing how closely we work with our clients, other people in are industry often ask us how we keep our boundaries and ensure that we don't get emotionally involved with our clients and their wellbeing goals. The answer is, we don't keep our boundaries and we do get emotionally involved. This is how we are able to deliver such a high standard of care. We are passionate and emotionally invested in our work and in the people that look to us to help them achieve their goals. This is an important part of what we do and one of the reasons why Bodhimaya has become such a success.

 

How did you get into meditation and studying the mind?

When I was fifteen years old I began to suffer with severe depression, anxiety, stress and insomnia. Unfortunately, I was treatment resistant; neither standard therapy nor medication worked, and I tried several forms of both. I also tried complimentary approaches, but nothing resolved my issues.

During this time, I read a book which said that with perseverance and practice, meditation could completely free the mind from suffering. From that moment on, I was totally absorbed in Eastern philosophy and meditation; I began meditating and searching the globe for various teachers that might be able to help me.

The teachings I initially came across were not complete or authentic; while some helped, they were not the solution to my problems that I hoped they would be.

After a number of challenging experiences in quick succession, my condition worsened. The stress and suffering I was under was nearly impossible to navigate through. It was during this time that I began to travel back and forth to India, trying to find the source of the ancient Eastern teachings that promised freedom from suffering.

I travelled everywhere looking for people who knew about the mind, meditation, yoga and Buddhism. I went to the Himalayas, Kerala, Kolkata, Mumbai, Delhi, Tamil Nadu, Varanasi, Rajasthan and too many other places to mention; from busy cities to places with no roads, where you had to walk for hours though mountains to find the person or place you were looking for.

On my journey, I found a handful of teachers that were able to advise me and point me towards an understanding and experiential realisation of authentic meditation and Eastern philosopy.

In 2007 the effects of my meditation practice and the wisdom I had learned during my search caused the persistent stress and depression I had suffered with for 12 years to come to an end. I was finally able to make peace with myself and the world around me; not only that, but I became consumed by a passion to help others find health and happiness.

Those years were incredibly tough, but they are the reason I do what I do now. What I learnt throughout this process not only inspires me to want help others, it has also given me the tools to do so.

 

What is a Mind and Meditation Expert?

A Mind and Meditation Expert is someone who understands how the mind works and can help people develop a wiser and more relaxed approach to life.

I identify why someone is stressed, suffering or anxious, I help them explore why they feel the way that they do and I help them develop the wisdom needed to overcome their problems; I help people find clarity with their problems, develop better ways of dealing with them, find solutions where solutions can be found and make peace with what can't be changed. Using insight and observation, I help them reassess their approach to work, life, themselves and their relationships.

 

What qualifications do you have?

I have studied the mind, meditation and Eastern philosophy for over 20 years and have explored the most advanced elements of yoga philosophy and Buddhism. I have travelled back and forth to India for many years, studying with teachers from a variety of disciplines and philosophies; my teachers and influences are regarded as some the world's most respected authorities on meditation, Buddhism and yoga philosophy. I have studied Eastern philosophy at its source, exploring many of the ancient root texts, as well as the development of Eastern philosophical concepts from their beginning through to their use today.

There is no recognised qualification in the therapeutic application of Eastern philosophy, no professional body for meditation and Eastern philosophy experts and no way of ensuring that people who work in this area have the experience required to effectively teach. You could do a weekend course and set yourself up as a Mind and Meditation Expert, but that certainly does not give you the skill needed to become one; even a three or four year course couldn't guarantee someone would develop the skill needed to teach and apply Eastern philosophy therapeutically.

What you should do with any teacher is ask how long the teacher has studied for, where they have studied, whether they have studied the root texts of their philosophy and who or what their influences are; from this you can get an indication of their level of experience and expertise.

 

What kind of people come to see you?

Many people come to see me because they are dealing with with anxiety, depression or are in an intense period of stress, however I also see a lot of people who just come to see me for advice and self development.

 

What kind of advice do people ask for?

They want to speak to me about their personal lives, relationships, their past, how deal with a particular problem or situation, pressure at work, politics at work, self development or just to talk something through; it can be anything really.

What I do isn't just for people who are suffering with depression, anxiety or stress, it's for anyone who is intersted in their development as a human being. Meditation and Eastern philosophy can have a deep impact on someone's life regardless of who they are or what they are going through.

 

How does what you do differ from counseling and psychotherapy?

I'm not a counsellor or a psychotherapist, these are modern approaches to the mind. There is some crossover with what I do, but the approach I use is based on Eastern philosophy. For millennia people have been observing the mind, human nature and life; I use these well-recorded observations as well as my own insight to help people find a more effective approach life. Unlike counsellors or psychotherapists,  I look at the very core dynamics of the mind: the establishment, structure, maintenance and modification of the underlying mechanisms that create our experience: thought, identity and consciousness. I also tend to give more advice than most counsellors or psychotherapists.

What I do and what counsellors and psychotherapists do, all have their place. I will often refer someone to a counsellor or psychotherapist if I feel that that particular approach may be more suited to someone.

If someone is dealing with chronic depression and anxiety, I will often work alongside their doctor, counsellor or psychotherapist; it's important that people get the right medical advice and support for these issues.

 

Why do you think your approach has become popular with lawyers, bankers, business people and politicians?

I have a lot of different clients, but naturally people talk more about the bankers, lawyers and politicians that come to see me and join us on retreat. People are surprised that this type of individual would gravitate towards meditation and Eastern philosophy, but they are, and in increasing numbers. I think that's a fantastic development; meditation and Eastern philosophy are no longer seen as 'out there', their real value has being realised. Our lives have become so stressed and pressured that people are having to look for a solution to alleviate the burnout, exhaustion and emotional impact. Eastern philosophy and meditation provide a very robust and comprehensive solution to these problems and people are starting to see the incredible effect this way of thinking and being can have on their lives.

There are a few reasons why my approach is particularly popular with bankers, lawyers, business people and politicians

Firstly, everything I teach is factual, logical and down to earth. There is no belief or superstition. Authentic meditation and Eastern philosophy is based on pure observation of the mind; how the mind works, how we see ourselves, how we see the world around us and how we approach life. Lawyers, bankers , business people and politicians are often very intellectual and logical people, and therefore this approach appeals to them. I am also very direct with people, I tell them exactly what I think. This approach tends to sit very well with people who are themselves quite direct and straight forward.

Secondly, what I teach is very effective. Taught correctly, Eastern philosophy has an incredible effect on the mind; helping us to reduce stress and to develop wisdom that allows us to feel more at peace with ourselves and the world around us.

Thirdly, I know the unique type of stress people in highly demanding roles or in high profile positions experience. I have a lot of experience working with people who have a unique set of circumstances and who have an incredible amount of stress and pressure to manage. To help this type of individual you need to have an acute appreciation for the type of and level of stress and pressure they have to deal with.

 

And finally, if there is one thing people can do to reduce stress and find peace of mind, what is it?

Take the time to meditate; for 10 minutes in the morning when you wake up and 10 minutes in evening before you sleep. Just 10 minutes of meditation twice a day can have a huge impact on someone's life, work and relationships.

Try simple breath meditation. Don't try to stop your thoughts when you meditate, just let them come and go, and don't worry about how many times you get distracted from your breath, just return you're attention to the breath whenever you realise that you've become distracted. It's a very simple practice. The philosophy and teaching that is taught alongside the practice is the difficult part, and it is this that you need a competent teacher's help with. While meditation alone does help, without a firm understanding and grasp of the teaching that goes along with it, it's affects do not fully unfold and establish themselves.